SNAKE ACT

Just because you say you’re a snake doesn’t make it okay to act like one. Thank you for your honesty, but that doesn’t excuse you from common courtesy. So when you say you are just want to be a friend, you ought to remember how to act like one. I am just suggesting that you gentlemen owe a friend the same kindness on your way out as you invested on the way in. That’s not to say that you can’t have your cake and eat it too. We all value a little flirtation, and can appreciate taking the attraction exchange to its natural conclusion. I am not preaching abstinence of even monogamy. I just don’t accept that rudeness be excused away cause you announced your intention to turn on us. You’ve all been there. You’re on the town to take in the sites, maybe take one home. You spot her as she enters the room. She thinks you’re cute too. She comes closer, laughs at your jokes, leads you onto the dance floor, and lets your hands slide below her shoulders. I mean we wouldn’t be out here, if we weren’t willing to consider the possibility too. And these are special circumstances. This kind of chemistry doesn’t happen every night. You suggest sneaking out and she likes the idea. Your knees tangle at the coffee shop counter, the whip cream on her lip allows you to kiss her, and she makes it clear the answer will be yes, before you ask. Your place? Most certainly. And it goes like that all the way past the clever repartee into genuine exchange, and easily beyond polite and below her skirts. So you go there, consensually and seductively and with great success. Heavy sigh. Nothing like a great one night stand. So what now?
You take her number, and look forward to seeing her. Nice and spicy the 2nd time over Thai food and a pool table. Now before she gets the wrong idea, you fill her in. You’re a man about town, not looking for a relationship. Yes that’s good information. We ought to know where we’re going. But at this point we’re on date. And dating is about being sweet. Maintain your focus at least while you have her in your sites. It seems you guys are too quick to assume we’ll get attached, so you siphon back the attraction even before the first kiss goes cold. Why can’t you just enjoy the life of this little love affair while it’s still buzzing in your blood? Cause this is happening now. No one has said forever. But do your self a favor and allow the situation to maintain some mystery at least for the while. She’s gotten on the ride; don’t tell her it doesn’t go to the top. There is time for that. So it’s fine if you want to see a few women a week, just don’t diss this one to make time for that. And if you have no more nights to assign, then maybe you ought not be out shopping for what’s next.